Tuesday, May 11, 2010

My Little Man

Me: Rhett, what would you like for your birthday?

Rhett: A lap top

Me: Well that's not going to happen.

Rhett: Ok a cell phone.

Me: That's REALLY not going to happen.

Rhett: It's not fair everyone has one.

Me: Seriously? Are you kidding me?

Rhett: No, ______ at school has one.

Me: Well _________ is saving up to buy a lap top and she is turing 11. How many years older is she then you?

Rhett: (using his fingers to count) 4??

Me: That's correct. You may not have to wait until your 11 but we are at least
not talking about this again for a few more years. And you will get a lap top before you
get a cell phone. You don't need a cell phone.

Rhett: Yes I do.

Me: What for?

Rhett: To arrange my play dates.

Rhett leaves the table and goes into his sisters room to play Weeble Wobbles with her.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009


In about 10 hours it will FINALLY, officially be summer in the Kaya household.  We are more than ready to embrace long mornings of sleeping in and open schedules to do whatever we please at a moments notice.  However the obsessive- compulsive in me must have some agenda so here is my plan in how to embrace the next two months of Summer Fun:


Falling for God- Gary W. Moon

The Unlikely Disciple- Kevin Roose

7 Practices of Effective Ministry- Andy Stanley, Reggie Joiner, Lane Jones

Making Room for Life- Randee Frazee (already finished this one but reviewing notes)


Lots of grilling outside alfresco style using recipes from this magazine.

Keeping freezer stocked with Dreyer's fruit bars to cool kids off from the heat.


Noah's Club- Learning about God's love by understanding God does what He says He will do and God knows what's best for me.

Paint Rhett's room and frame his original art pictures

De-clutter Emmie's room and buy her a bed

Scrape popcorn off of all ceilings in the house.

Plant a garden

Rhett's summer goals: 
1. learn to read
2. swim better
3. learn to ride two wheeler

Emmie's summer goals:
1. take a dance class
2. learn to swim
3. talking in longer sentences that others can understand


Keeping weekly beach day tradition.  Probably Thursdays at Coronado.

Watch free movies under the stars Tuesday nights at Viejas.

Go to tidepools in Pt. Loma

Take the kids to see Le Miserables at Junior Theater in Balboa Park

Annual La Jolla shores end of summer family bonfire

Take in a game at Petco Park

Play dates at the park or neighborhood pool


Shop at a few Farmers Markets

Go on a twilight walk at Mission Trails

Hike Cowles Mountain

Have a weekly "family night."

Family vacation

Without Kids-
Go wine tasting
Girlfriend July getaway

For summer this list already seems a bit long.  However a wise friend told me a few years back that her motto as a mom of young children was to wear them out before they wore her out. This is not a to do list.  I don't need to check off every item before summer is over (as tempting as that is.)  It's a simple plan to take in this new season.  After all those that fail to plan should plan to fail right?  My main objective this summer is to see more smiles on the faces of my family then grimaces which we have had a lot of lately.  I'm feeling optimistic.  It's not even summer yet and I'm already LOVIN it!

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Valentines in 2009

Being a hopeless romantic I've always loved V-day.  I'm sure there were past V-days that were harder than others but honestly I don't remember them right now.  In fact one of my very favorite V-day memories was when I was single.  I won't get into that story here but I'm sure you could find it in my archives somehow.  For some reason I'm inept at posting links right now.

One of the best parts of having pre-school age children are the holidays.  Kids love to embrace a celebration so we have been celebrating around here for awhile.  Almost two weeks ago Rhett decided one day to have a spontaneous V-day celebration.  We donned red clothing, used heart napkins and used our one and only heart dish towel as the base for our red flower centerpiece.  We dined on pink yo-go's, strawberries and heart shaped pancakes.  Emmie had her pre-school Valentines party this past week and proudly brought red tulips in for her teacher along with valentines for her classmates.  Rhett wrote out all of his own valentines this year along with planning the "valentines park party."  We invited his friends from church and had brownies and rolled tacos.  Rhett put plates and napkins out along with heart suckers for each attendee.  The funniest moment was the night before V-day when Rhett said to me, "mom, I can't believe V-day is tomorrow already!"  You would think it was Christmas around here.

On the actual day we spent lots of time together as a family.

Of coarse Rhett had Valentines made for all of us when we woke up.  The one above is one of at least five that he had made for Emmie over the past week.
After heart shaped English muffins with strawberry jelly the kids opened their valentines from us.  They even got to eat their PEZ candy at 10 in the morning.
I wrote my sentiments on the kids bathroom mirror.  The kids seemed to like it and were impressed I could do this with lipstick. Rod was afraid it might be encouraging some naughty behavior but we decided it was worth it to take the risk.
Emmie decided not to refrain from her usual craziness on V-day and decided to try and wash her hair all by herself with dish soap.
Rod wanted us to celebrate as a family and took us out to lunch at Cheesecake Factory.
After lunch Rod and the kids were taking a break in the mall while I checked out H&M.
After shopping we took the kids to a great park by Mike and my Moms house.
We went on a great walk and took in the crisp air.  Rhett shot most of these pictures.
All in all we had a great day of family fun celebrating our love for each other.  And just when it seemed things could not get any better we dropped the kids off at Nana and Papa's to spend the night.

Rod did not give me flowers or chocolate this year.  Instead I got lots of quality time with the best husband and father I could ask for.  We ate yummy food, watched great romantic movies and talked about this and that and everything.  Some gifts cannot be wrapped up but they end up being the best kind.  Valentines Day was FINE in 2009!

Thursday, February 05, 2009


I went to bed last night with haunting feelings of uneasiness.  I woke up with the same torment this morning maybe even a bit worse than last night.  I pledged to deal with these thoughts as soon as possible.  

After dragging one child out of bed with another hanging on to my leg we made it through the morning with only two or three meltdowns.  Rhett was out the door with nothing but ovaltine in his stomach however I figured the two quarters in his pocket for the bake sale should help tide him over until lunch.  Emmie was a bit more challenging as usual.  Finally after trying out juice in three different cups she settled on cran-apple in the blue sippy cup with a butter and jelly sandwich and Weeble Wobbles for entertainment.  At last I had a moment to figure out what was going on in my head.

I love to journal and write in general so I decided to write down each thought on a piece of paper just so I could organize them and visually see what was causing my fret.  They ended up taking a whole page.  At the bottom of the page I wrote "Lord, here they are now what?"  I won't get into any specifics here.  Basically they ranged from lost library materials to terrible twos to some deeper issues taking root in my heart.  I picked up my Bible and journal and "page of woes" and did the best I could to offer them up to the Lord.  I found Hope.

Back in January I decided to read the "red words" of the Bible this year.  I really wanted to focus in on when Jesus spoke and what he had to say.  Today I was on Matt. chapter 27.  I've been trying to limit my reading to one chapter a day because the gospels record Jesus' words a lot.  Generally one chapter provides more than enough verses for me to reflect on.  However chapter 27 only had two verses.  One being only a few words and then Jesus' last words "My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?"  I realized in that moment that deep down I felt that way.  It comforted me to know that Jesus felt that same way too and understands how I feel.  For the first time this year I decided to keep reading on to the next chapter.

Chapter 28 only had a few words as well.  Jesus' very next words recorded in the gospel of Matthew after feeling utterly abandoned were "do not be afraid."  And then at the end of the chapter he says, "be sure of this, I am with you always, even to the end of age."  I was reminded of the hope we have in Jesus resurrection which we celebrate on Easter Sunday.  I was reminded of God's faithfulness in my life.  My experience has been that even when times seem hard there is always a new day ahead.  I find it profoundly cool that even Jesus can go from total despair to total joy and that I know how the story of Jesus ends.  That yes he suffered beyond all but that's not the end of the story.

After reading I went back to my "list of woes" and wrote over them in big letters, "HOPE."  I still have to deal with each one of them but now with a new perspective.  Rather than feel despondent I have hope.  Not hope in the outcome of any specific circumstance but hope in the knowledge that Jesus understands my pain, he is with me and God is faithful.  I think the following lyrics say it best.

"My Hope is Built on Nothing Less"
by Edward Mote, 1797-1874

My hope is build on nothing less
than Jesus' blood and rightousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus' name.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is shifting sand.

When darkness veils His lovely face,
I rest on His unchanging grace;
In every high and stormy gale
My anchor holds within the veil.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

His oath, His covenant, and blood
Support me in the whelming flood;
When every earthly prop gives way,
He then is all my Hope and Stay.
On Christ the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is shifting sand.

When he shall come with trumpet sound,
Oh, may I then in him be found,
Clothed in his rightousness alone,
Faultless to stand before the throne!
On Christ the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is shifting sand.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Mr. Spielberg This One's For You

After uploading my photos today I came across this gem.  I'm really only blogging this so 15 yrs. from now I will have it to show Rhett what a cutie he was.  I don't expect anyone to watch it in it's entirety, I mean we are talking 8 long minutes of not much more than Star Wars figurines narrated by my 5 yr. old.  Unless of coarse you are a really, really big Star Wars fan or you really, really love my son.  So with the exception of Ande and Aunite Itsuko (who really, really love my son) I would recommend you skip to the last few minutes.

A few observations from the film:

1.  This is proof that Rod did in fact watch the Charger game this past Sunday.
2.  I love how my son places God right up there with all the super heroes which is basically the ultimate in importance.
3.  "If you like Star Wars ask my dad and me we know all about Clone Wars and Star Wars.  My friends Garrett and Ethan really like Clone Wars and Star Wars."  So I guess the point of this was to be a Star Wars infomercial.

During the Golden Globes this past week there was a tribute to Steven Spielberg.  In response he said a pretty inspiring thing in regards to the kind of movies he chooses to make.  He likes to ask himself, "can I get away with this?"  If he does not have to ask that question he does not take the job.  I would have to say after stealing my camera for 8 mins. to make a movie and then proceed to take about 20 photos with it he must have asked himself that exact question.

Good job Rhett, Mr. Spielberg would be proud, your mommy sure is!

Sunday, November 09, 2008

Auntie Itsuko

One of the many blessings of being married to Rod is to be a part of his extended family in Hawaii. His parents along with aunts, uncles and cousins live in Hawaii on the island of Oahu. We don't get out there nearly as often as I would like but fortunately for us his mom and aunt come out to San Diego at least once a year sometimes even more. Esther (my mother in law) has one sister named Flora. Rod and his brother grew up calling her Auntie Itsuko so the kids and I call her Auntie Itsuko. Rod has told me on more than one occasion how she was and is his favorite aunt hands down.

Over the years I have grown to love her so much and now that my kids know her they too can share in the sentiment. When we are in Hawaii she takes us to nice restaurants and lets us use her car. When she is here she plays with the kids tirelessly and makes Rhett feel like he is the greatest thing since sliced bread. She educates us on the Japanese culture and the proper way to drink hot tea. The rest of the year she sends us care packages that are not only filled with several treats but even more impressive all the time she has to spend in order to send them. After taking maybe a bazillion photos from her visits to San Diego she goes home and prints out each picture and organizes them in an album for us. I just counted and over the years she has made us eight photo albums. In addition she makes a point to have lunch at fast food places day after day always ordering a kids meal just to get the toy for my kids. Now that Emmie is old enough to enjoy the toys she makes a point to get a boy toy and a girl toy. After we received our last care package Rhett said, "boy auntie sure eats a lot of happy meals."

She is one of the very few people that love me enough to read this blog and I wanted her to know how much the San Diego Kaya's love and appreciate her. Also Auntie since you do not have a Facebook account here are the pictures you have been waiting for. If you had a facebook account you would have been able to see them much sooner....just a suggestion.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Waiting for the temperature to FALL

Update- Becky congratulations on your free one month supply of Sensa. Someone will be sending it directly to you. Let me know when you get it and we can have a club meeting :)

In other news unrelated to anything Sensa I'm embarking on my week of FALL. Nevermind that our trusty weathermen are forcasting this week to be in the 90's and my husband is forcasting the 100's because he likes to add 10 degrees to whatever weather.com says. I think that's just being pessimistic. He would say realistic. I would rather take away 30 degrees and spend the week sipping hot cocoa and carving pumpkins.

So although I will be sweating while doing so this week my plans are the following:

A library trip to check out some new movies for the kids and some fall favorite books to keep Rhett on his reading track while being out of school for a week

Finishing up two books of my own. One is almost done and one is barely started.

Finishing up sewing a Halloween costume for Emmie.

Starting a new design project for Noah's Club large group stage

Take Rhett out on a date this week while Emmie is in pre-school

Watch Emmie in her Halloween pre-school parade and help with their party.

Carve pumpkins with the Denisons (and anyone else interested)

Get back involved with our Tues. night bible study group

Attend a family birthday party and a friend anniversary dinner

Make homemade donuts for the kids for breakfast

Celebrate Halloween at the Phillipson house

And swallow my bitterness and take the kids to the pool at least once if not more

BTW the witty title to this post was thought of by my brilliant husband www.rodkaya.com